Ok, I have some (interesting?) thoughts rattling around in my head about the final Sansa and Sandor scene. This may get crazy and confusing, but bear with me.
So, GRRM wrote this episode. This is the perspective of the actual author working with what was given him based on how Sansa and Sandor’s interactions were written in the show. Obviously it couldn’t be the same as it was in the books because none of that would have made sense to the TV audience. There was no previous mention of singing and pulling a dagger on her would be way more aggressive than how TV!Sandor is and wouldn’t be consistent with his TV characterization. So, since things had to be changed due to how the show went, we have to pay lots of attention to what was changed and what wasn’t to see what GRRM really thinks is important.
To me, the most striking similarity between the book scene and the TV scene is that both times, Sansa does not refuse to go with Sandor. She never expressly gives consent, but she never straight up refuses. For the show, GRRM could have easily written her saying “No!” to Sandor when he says he could take her home. She gives a reason why staying wouldn’t be bad, but never says she won’t go with him. In the book, after he says he could keep her safe he doesn’t let her respond. He puts the dagger to her throat and demands a song and then he leaves after she sings it.
I think this gives us an insight into Sandor. I don’t think he ever believed she would come with him and at the slightest sign of hesitation, he leaves. This shows that he believes himself to be so terrible that no one would ever accept him and it brings up the very important aspect of consent. To him, silence doesn’t constitute consent. He needed a clear yes to act.
I think this lack of refusal, like the kiss that wasn’t, will come up again and perhaps be just as important. Who knows? All I know is in both the book and TV scenes Sansa never says no.
Or maybe I’m reading waaay too much into this. There’s always that.







